Gil Schwartz
in May’s Men’s Health
advises never to apologize
for fuck ups.
Why?
“Two reasons.
First, no apology is ever sufficient.
Look at how many times
Tiger Woods apologized for his misdeeds.
Did anybody care?
Second, apologies generate demands
for future punishment.
Since your apology is definitely
not accepted by anybody,
the immediate follow-up is often,
“Sure! You’re sorry now!
But what’s to be done about you?!”
If you never apologize,
you don’t give the mean guys
a chance to move to the next square.”
I’ll admit to being an apologizer
but I usually skim over the apology
and spend time on the solution
and lessons learned.
And I don’t apologize
without having some sort of solution
’cause yeah,
the mean guys will slice and dice me
otherwise.
Cheers!