Taylor Swift And Living Life Your Way

Newsweek published an article
about Taylor Swift
in which they said,

“At 34, Swift remains
unmarried and childless,
a fact that some might argue
is irrelevant to her status
as a role model.
But, I suggest,
it’s crucial to consider
what kind of example
this sets for young girls.”

They would never
write that
about a male performer.
(Though they might
be driven to write one
to offset the bad publicity
over this article.)

If Taylor Swift
was married and had kids,
they would criticize
her for going on tour
and ‘neglecting’ her family.

If she produced music
while being at home
with a spouse and kids,
they would criticize that decision
for the same reason.

Women can’t win
over everyone.

We’ll always have someone
(usually a white man)
criticizing what we’re doing.

So live the life
YOU want.

Build your business
the way YOU want
to build it.

Find your own happiness
and stop listening
to small-minded,
insecure people.

Be free.

We Have Choices

Yesterday,
I talked about
how I block people
who are possible threats,
even if they are experts
in a field.

I can do that.
Because I have choices.

There are many experts
in every field.
There are many prospective
business partners.
There are many possible
customers
or vendors
or influentials
or…
well… any type of person.

Listen to your instincts,
to the warning signs.

Don’t spend time
with people who give you
reasons to be afraid
or share the same space
with people
you don’t feel comfortable
being around.

There are over 8 billion people
on this planet.

Choose someone else.

Contacting Tech Support

I won’t bullsh*t you.

Contacting tech support
of another company
when you’re a female business builder
is as likely to cause you
more problems
than it will solve.

Recently, as one of MANY examples,
I asked tech support
at the newsletter provider I use
how best to do something.

He took a look at my account
– a detailed look
and he found a cuss word.
No. Not even a cuss word.
A self-censored cuss word.
I used ‘d@mn’ in a sentence.

He determined
that broke their profanity rule
and he suspended my account.

And no, he didn’t ever answer
my question.

(My account will likely be reinstated
but it will cost me time and hassle
and sales
and THAT is exactly his goal.)

IT remains, unfortunately,
a space renown for female-hating
or female-resenting males.
Tech support falls into IT.

Google answers to your questions.
Ask anonymously on a forum.

Do anything you can do
to avoid contacting tech support.