If you have to be told
to do tasks,
you’re not a partner.
You’re a subordinate.
If you’re a subordinate,
you likely can be replaced.
Does your spouse
put EVERYTHING you do
on the honey-do list?
That’s a warning sign.
It means they don’t trust you
to pitch in
at all.
It means they know
if they’re ill
or too busy
to craft that list,
you won’t put any work
into the relationship.
That request from a friend
to bring a dessert
to their BBQ?
It means they know
you won’t voluntarily help them.
That line in the meeting invite
that says participation is mandatory?
That means the project lead
doesn’t think
you’ll voluntarily attend.
If you’re not initiating tasks,
you’re not a partner.