A loved one
regularly
gives me advice
on health and fitness topics.
I listen to him.
But I’m always skeptical
about his advice.
Why?
Because he’s in
terrible health.
And those health problems
are mostly
due to his choices.
There are
plenty of people
who are in great health
giving advice.
I use my limited time
to investigate THEIR advice.
Don’t take advice
from people
who haven’t figured out
the topic of that advice
for themselves.
I asked
for a follow up appointment.
The person I was meeting with
said I didn’t need one.
They were lazy
to meet with me.
They wanted to do
the bare minimum.
I knew I needed more.
I knew I DID need
a follow up appointment.
I insisted on it
and the person reluctantly
gave it to me.
Very few people
will voluntarily
give you what you need.
You have to ask
for what you need
and
insist on it.
Stand up
for yourself.
Ask for what you need.
I started a new exercise program.
I tend to get sucked into
projects
and
I knew I’d need help
sticking to this program.
I asked a loved one
to remind me
about exercising.
And I was specific
about how
I wanted to be reminded.
I asked him
to mention
one of a few phrases
I associate with the exercises.
He has been doing that,
I’ve been happily
sticking to the exercise program.
and I feel no resentment
toward him
for reminding me.
Everyone is different
and you should know you
better than anyone else.
Teach people
how to coach you.
Don’t expect them
to know your particular quirks.
I posted recently
about trusting customers
to know their own situations.
We are our own customers.
And we should trust ourselves
to know our own situations
also.
That means only taking
the advice
that makes sense for us
and for our businesses.
I know, for example,
that I wouldn’t feel proud
of an AI-generated cover.
And if I don’t feel proud
of my products,
I also don’t promote them
properly.
I wouldn’t sell sh*t.
That advice
doesn’t work for me
so
I ignore it.
Only take advice
that makes sense
for you
and your unique situation.
(And yes,
that includes advice
found here on client k.)
I love to tweak projects.
I constantly want
to make small changes.
That f*cks up
product development.
It is a way
to guarantee
the product
will NEVER ship.
I know that
so I give myself
deadlines.
If I pass them,
I can no longer
change the product.
I also tend
to delegate tasks
and then walk away
from them.
I don’t want to be involved
with the delegated tasks
because I know
I’ll change the specs
and that will
f*ck up the process.
If you constantly make changes
or you work with someone
who constantly makes changes,
put in systems to deal with that issue.
Because it IS an issue.