how to make a change

Deprivation And Lifestyle Changes

“A change centering around
deprivation
doesn’t last.”

A mentor told me that
once.

She also told me
to focus on
what I gained
by the change,
not what I lost.

For example,
we shouldn’t tell ourselves
we can’t ever
flop on the couch
and watch TV
after our day jobs end.

We tell ourselves
we get to spend
our evenings
working on our own businesses.

We shouldn’t tell ourselves
we can’t spend our excess money
on the latest toys.

We tell ourselves
we are investing in
our businesses
and in our dreams.

Don’t focus on
what we lose
by starting a business.

Focus on
what we gain.

Know Your Pitfalls

A loved one
is easily distracted.

When he’s working
on an important project,
he doesn’t watch
self improvement videos.

Why?

Because self improvement videos
list things to do
to improve ourselves.

Those lists are distractions.

And he knows
he has to focus
on his project.

We all have
pitfalls,
‘traps’ that distract or prevent us
from achieving our goals.

These could be
commercials for all you can eat buffets
when we’re trying to get healthy
or calls from an auntie
who always makes us feel bad
about ourselves
when we’re trying to
make a positive change
or a trip to a charity shop
when we’re trying to declutter
or other events.

Know your pitfalls
and avoid them.