being a female entrepreneur

Taylor Swift And Living Life Your Way

Newsweek published an article
about Taylor Swift
in which they said,

“At 34, Swift remains
unmarried and childless,
a fact that some might argue
is irrelevant to her status
as a role model.
But, I suggest,
it’s crucial to consider
what kind of example
this sets for young girls.”

They would never
write that
about a male performer.
(Though they might
be driven to write one
to offset the bad publicity
over this article.)

If Taylor Swift
was married and had kids,
they would criticize
her for going on tour
and ‘neglecting’ her family.

If she produced music
while being at home
with a spouse and kids,
they would criticize that decision
for the same reason.

Women can’t win
over everyone.

We’ll always have someone
(usually a white man)
criticizing what we’re doing.

So live the life
YOU want.

Build your business
the way YOU want
to build it.

Find your own happiness
and stop listening
to small-minded,
insecure people.

Be free.

The Sweetie Block

If you’re female facing
and a male facing person
uses ‘sweetie’
when posting to your message
online,
block that person.

Hell, save yourself
future trouble
and
block anyone
who uses ‘sweetie’ in that way
with any female facing person.

‘Sweetie’ is not only
condescending
and patronizing,
a means of belittling
you and your views,
but it is also
a dog whistle
to women haters everywhere.

By using it,
the person
is intentionally sending
a wave of hate
your way.
They are deliberately
trying to harm you.

The use of ‘sweetie’
is meant
to attract
more of those awful people
to your account
and to you.

You’ll be swamped
by hate
and you’ll have to manage that.

No one has time
for that sh*t.

View ‘sweetie’
as an automatic block.

Color Is A Power Move

One of the (many) things
I noticed
when I was playing hard
in the corporate world
was…

I got more respect
when I wore a brightly colored suit.

I had a bright red
power pant suit
I’d wear
when I pitched important projects.
The execs would assume
I was in charge,
which I was.

If I was acting
in a secondary role
and wanted to support the team lead,
I’d wear black or dark blue
or some other dark color.

If I was being a little sh*t
and DIDN’T want to support
the team lead,
I’d wear bright blue or bright green.
And then the execs would
give me enough respect
to make the team lead uncomfortable.

Color is a power move.

And it WILL irritate
the f*ck out of women-hating men
when we use it
to our advantage
because they are restricted
to power ties
and can’t fully use the power
of color.

USE that advantage.
Wear color when you want
to be seen as the leader.

How Most Women Hating People TRULY Act

There is a male ‘expert’
in the Romance Industry.
It is clear to me
he hates women.
Absolutely hates them.

But many female writers
don’t realize that
because
he’s not obvious about it.

He doesn’t go around
beating his chest,
telling women they should
go back to the kitchen.

He, instead,
quietly and constantly undermines
women.

A hugely successful female writer’s website
was hij@cked,
for example.

It was clear
the site was h@cked.

That has also been happening
to many high traffic sites
(and low traffic sites
like mine).

This male expert
posted that
she likely didn’t renew
her domain
in time.

What the f*ck?

Not renewing a domain
in time
is a junior jammer mistake
and it is quite difficult to do
unintentionally now.
Domain registries send out
plenty of warnings.
Renewals can be for decades.

I gave him
the benefit of the doubt
and told him it was likely a h@ck.

He didn’t delete or modify
his post.

Because he wanted to undermine
this female writer.
He wanted her to look foolish.

THAT is the move
of the average woman-hating a$$hole.
And it is d@mn difficult
to counter.

Because it is sneaky
and they leave themselves an out.
This a$$hat could tell folks
it COULD have been a domain renewal issue.
He was trying to be ‘nice’
and warn writers about it.

If the writer confronts him,
he’ll spin it
so it looks like she isn’t ‘grateful.’

The best tactic
I find
is to erase these people
from my life
as much as possible.

Because, if they have access to me,
they WILL undermine me.