Kelly Clarkson’s Big Break

We all know authors or entrepreneurs
who are waiting for the big break.
“If I just get a break,
I’ll be on easy street.”

Yeah, no,
easy street does not follow
a big break.
Even more hard work does.

Look at Kelly Clarkson’s experience.
She was the very first
American Idol winner
and many people assumed
things were sunshine and roses for her
after that win.

As Kelly Clarkson shares

“You have to keep knocking
on every damn door.
Right after ‘Idol,’
people think it all landed in my lap.
It did not.
People hated ‘Idol.’
I don’t know if anybody remembers that
but all I did was get bashed left and right.”

“It was a lot of hard work
and playing all the state fairs
you could do.
My whole joke was
‘I started playing in town manure
and I still do.'”

Big breaks are wonderful opportunities
but only for people willing
to work
and take advantage of
that opportunity.

The Big Break is only the beginning.

Hermit Mode

John Bradberry
shares

“I need you
to give me space
to be a hermit,
an obsessive geek or
even a crazed sales guy.
I will put in very long hours
that fall beyond the confines
of a convenient schedule.
Despite the popular myth about entrepreneurs,
there is no such thing as
“being your own boss.”
Instead, I’ll have many bosses.
When I say no to your lunch
or happy-hour invitations,
I won’t be feeling superior or aloof.
If I spend more time
with prospective clients
than with you,
don’t take it personally.
I’ll be married to my business for a while.”

For a long while.

I’m in that place right now
with the writing venture
and it is challenging,
especially during the summer
when it feels like
everyone else is sitting on patios
drinking beer.

Notice John Bradberry doesn’t mention choice.
We choose to work these crazy hours
the same way
corporate folks choose to go to work
on Mondays.
The long hours are often a requirement
to make our dreams happen.

If you know an entrepreneur,
please be understanding.
If you are an entrepreneur,
I’ll be working right beside you.

Long Term Commitments

When Laurann Dohner signed
a 75 book deal with Ellora’s Cave,

many in the literary world thought
both Laurann Dohner and Ellora’s Cave were crazy.
What if she wrote crap books?
What if her career took off
and she could earn more money elsewhere?
What if?

But by signing the 75 book deal,
readers were given a clear signal
that Laurann Dohner was a writer to watch.
Ellora’s Cave,
because they had so much invested
in her career,
took an active role in
managing and supporting it.
Laurann Dohner is now a regular name
on both the New York Times
and the USA Today best sellers lists.

When Rihanna, then an unknown singer,
signed a 6 record deal with
Jay-Z’s Def Jam Recordings,

many people in the music world
thought both sides were crazy.
Many artists don’t last in the business.
If Rihanna did last,
she might be able to make more money
somewhere else.

But the 6 record deal
sent a signal to the world.
Rihanna was talented,
Jay-Z believed in her,
and she’d be in the music business for a while.

Jay-Z often states
“I don’t sign songs, I sign artists.”
THAT is what a long term commitment is,
it is a tangible vote of confidence
in that person, that company, that relationship.

Yes, flexibility can be great
but long term commitments have benefits also.
Think about your partnerships
and the signals they send.

50 Shades Of Grey And The Facebook IPO

The erotic romance
50 Shades of Grey is very hot right now.
The media is covering it constantly.
Many of the reader communities are talking about it.

My writing isn’t anything like
50 Shades of Grey.
However, friends and family
and especially my dear wonderful mom
have been telling others
that I’m writing the next 50 Shades of Grey.

I respond with “I might be.”
Why?
Because it is wonderful and rare
to have this sort of support
for my writing.
I am certainly not about
to do anything to dampen
that support.

If you’re an entrepreneur,
odds are…
friends and family and maybe complete strangers
have been asking you
if you’re building the next Facebook.

They’re looking for a reason
to believe in you,
to support you,
to boast to others about you.

Let them have that reason.
Bask in their support.
Use their faith to push you toward success.

Your Inner Freak

If you’re a new business developer,
I can pretty much guarantee
that you have some crazy, creative ideas,
ideas that your core employer
would have a hissy fit
if they heard.

You and I know
you shouldn’t mention them.
They aren’t appropriate for that client
and we do want to
keep our paying clients happy.

However, I find if I don’t find a way
to express these freaky deaky ideas,
they fly out of my mouth
at inappropriate times
OR
I somehow wedge them
into a current project.

With my writing,
the solution is easy.
I send my ‘normal’ stories
to the bigger publishers
and my freaky stuff
to a smaller niche publisher
who specializes in freaky stuff.
Expressing my freaky side
every once in a while
allows me to more happily write
the normal stories.

In other industries,
it can be more challenging.

When I worked in new product development
for a big beverage manufacturer,
our team would always send
a couple of absolutely whack job ideas
to the idea screener process.
We knew the ideas would be turned down
but talking about them
eased some of our creative stress,
allowing us to focus
on more marketable ideas.

Don’t suppress your inner freak.
It is part of you.
Simply learn how to manage it.

Your First Words

When I write a 10,000 word story,
I spend 1 day on the first 500 words
and 4 days on the other 9,500 words.

Why?

Because in those first 500 words,
that first critical emotional connection
is made
between the reader
and my character.
If those first 500 words don’t work,
the other 9,500 words are useless
because the reader
will have already stopped reading.

Stephen Shapiro
talks about the importance
of emotional connection.

“When starting a speech,
you want to connect
with the audience emotionally.
Why should the audience care
about what I am going to say?
What’s in it for them?
What benefit will come from listening?
Buy-in is rarely done
on an intellectual level.
People are more likely to listen
if they can relate to you
and your message
on an emotion level.
Does what you offer
—your product, service or idea—
solve a problem?
Can you speak to a pain they have?”

Spend the majority of your time
on building that critical
emotional connection.

Out Of Your Head

One of the first things I do
with a new story
is explain it to a buddy.
If I can get her excited
about my story
in a sentence or two,
I know I can sell the story
to both a publisher
and readers.

Leadership strategies are similar.
You can have the best strategy in the world
but if you can’t relay it
to your business partners,
employees, customers,
it won’t work.

As David Grossman explains

“You might have
the most compelling vision
for your organization,
but if you can’t get it out of your head
and get others to see it
and believe in it,
it might as well not even exist.

It’s up to you
to engage others
so they have the same clear picture you do
of your strategy and where the business is going.
Lift the perspective out of your head
and get it into others’
so they can own it
and help you achieve it.”

Figure out how to sum up
and sell your strategy
quickly and easily.

Focus On Need, Not The Competition

Cynthia Montgomery,
author of The Strategist,

shares that the core skill of a great leader
is being savvy at strategy.

When we think about strategy,
we think about pummeling the competition,
about winning over them.

That is not how Montgomery
defines strategy.

“Strategy is about
serving an unmet need,
doing something unique or
uniquely well for some set of stakeholders.
Beating the competition is critical,
to be sure,
but it’s the result of finding
and filling that need,
not the goal.”

Find and focus
on your prospect’s unmet need.

The Work Habit

One of my buddies was laid off
from his job.
His company, working with the government,
arranged a very nice severance package,
so nice that it didn’t make sense
for him to actively look for work
until the severance package ran out.

So my buddy didn’t work… at all.
When the severance package ran out,
he no longer
had the habit of working
and looking for a job
is very hard work.

It was tough for him,
tougher, I suspect,
than it would have been
if he’d continued to work
at something, anything,
perhaps building a business,
perhaps making a dream happen,
perhaps giving back
to the world
through volunteer work.

Working hard is a habit.
If you currently work hard,
maintain that habit.
It is much easier
than re-learning to work hard.

Gratitude And Moms

Today is Mother’s Day.

I’m grateful to my mom
for everything she has done for me.
Of course, she’s human
and she makes mistakes
but I learn from her mistakes
and they give me permission to be human also.

I understand
if someone doesn’t feel grateful for her mom.
Not everyone has
as wonderful a mom
as I do.

However, if I ask the question
“Whom are you grateful
to have in your life?”
and that someone doesn’t name at least one person,
I become leery about doing business with them.

Why?

Because
she won’t be grateful
to have me in her life.
She won’t be grateful
for what I do for her.
She certainly won’t return a favor
she didn’t appreciate
in the first place.

Gratitude is an emotion
to look for
in business partners.