A buddy and I were discussing
how to determine
the origins of people
we meet.
I never ever ask people,
“Where are you from?”
This question assumes the person
is an outsider.
It points out,
‘Hey, you look/sound/act
different
from everyone else.
You clearly don’t belong
to this group.’
That’s rude and hurtful
and completely unnecessary.
I tend to ask,
“Have you always
lived in this city?”
This question conveys
they belong.
They’re part of the group.
They fit in.
This approach can be modified
to suit a wide range
of situations.
“Have you always
been in this industry?”
“Have you always
worked for this company?”
“Have you always
held this role?”
Ask questions
assuming the person belongs.