“Leaders cannot change personalities.
Period.
This is a hard one to accept.
I thought I could “fix” people
multiple times in my career,
and I failed every single time.
Then, I compounded the problem
by hanging on too long
with these folks
as I charged up the hill,
thinking that somehow, someway,
I could still make it to the big success
without hitting the brick wall.
And of course I’d hit it,
have to face reality and
let those people go,
and start again.”
I’d add that it is very difficult,
almost impossible,
to change YOUR own personality.
Early in my career,
I tried and failed.
Now, I accept my personality
and work with or around it,
hiring people to compensate for my weaknesses,
building systems to keep me on track.
You can’t change personalities.
Either accept that this is how
they will always be
or
let them be somewhere else.